Since this last year I have lost 55lbs. You could have
called me the white Fat Albert. Here is a picture of me from Thanksgiving 2012
and a picture from Thanksgiving 2013.
I have had numerous people ask me how I did it. I changed my
lifestyle with diet, working out and being accountable. For me the biggest
thing was being accountable! There have been many, many times I have tried to
eat right and exercise by myself and never succeeded. This past spring I
started working out with a buddy in the mornings. We used an app where we
shared our calorie intake, exercise routine and weight progression. Knowing that
someone was following up, motivated me.
I am a relational person and have a heart for people to
build relationships. Working out with other people motivated me. I think as a
whole we don’t like the word “Accountable” or “Accountability.” But in my mind
all “Accountability” is, is an open/honest relationship with someone or a group
who will speak truth and encouragement into your life, not just the things you
always want to hear. Too many times we
undervalued the importance of those relationships - whether it is with our
spouse or our closest friends.
I can look back through my life and see the importance of
friends. My best friend in high school was instrumental in my becoming a
Christian. He invited me to a church where I would eventually meet my wife. He
was the best man in my wedding and we meet for breakfast quite a bit. I looked
forward to those times.
I have a best friend from college who is just a spiritual
rock! I was the best man in his wedding and I am amazed at what God is doing in
his life. We don’t talk that much other then a few times a year, but when we
do, we don’t miss a beat.
There is a family in Ohio who accepted this southern boy as
one of their own. I have never met any people more open to God’s will in their
lives as I have this family. They are truly like my brother and sister. We talk
often and get to see each other about once a year.
My Pastor/friend /mentor/boss has a huge impact on me and
speaks so much into my life. I am lucky to get to work with someone with whom I
can have a relationship like that.
My wife, who is my best friend, can put up with so much. She
is definitely a Proverbs 31: 25 Woman (She is clothed with
strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.) Plus she is
an awesome mom.
I point all of these out because the
Bible has a lot to say about friendships and we see many examples: David &
Jonathan (1 Samuel 18); Ruth
& Naomi (Ruth 1); Elijah & Elisha (2 Kings 2:2); Daniel, Shadrach, Meshach
& Abednego (Daniel 2); Jesus, Mary, Martha & Lazarus (Luke 10:38); Paul,
Priscilla & Aquila (Romans 16:3-4).
Here are some scripture to give us
direction with evaluating our friendships:
The godly give good advice to their
friends; the wicked lead them astray. Proverbs 12:26
A friend is always loyal, and a brother
is born to help in time of need. Proverbs 17:17
There are “friends” who destroy each
other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 20:6
Many will say they are loyal friends,
but who can find one who is truly reliable? Proverbs 20:6
Two people are better off than one, for
they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out
and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people
lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A
person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand
back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is
not easily broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as
sweet as perfume and incense. Proverbs 27:9
As iron sharpens iron, so a friend
sharpens a friend. Proverbs 27:17
Value your
friendships. Maybe there are some friends who need to be just acquaintances
because they either bring too much drama, don’t value the truth, or they are
not loyal. They will make you duller
instead of sharpening you.
You need
some tension in order to have open and honest conversation. It makes you smell
better (Proverbs 27:9) and makes you sharper (Proverbs 27:17). Iron doesn’t get
sharper without the friction of the stone. Here is the thing about friendships.
It never means there will be no conflict or disagreements. It opens up the
pursuit to find the truth.
If you are lonely,
maybe start being a friend first by applying the above scriptures to your life.
Understand that our ultimate and best friend is God because He has given us so
much before we even accepted His friendship. Start with that relationship first
and see what wonderful people He will bring into your life.
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